“intimacy means that we can be who we are in a relationship, and allow the other person to do the same. ‘Being who we are’ requires that we can talk openly about things that are important to us, that we take a clear position on where we stand on important emotional issues, and that we clarify the limits of what is acceptable and tolerable to us in a relationship. ‘Allowing the other person to do the same’ means that we can stay emotionally connected to that other party who thinks, feels, and believes differently, without needing to change, convince, or fix the other. An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.”
— Harriet Lerner in The Dance of Intimacy, p. 3 (via fatemareads)
so as some of you know i quit my job because my ex roommates were stalking me n i had a donation post for that situation. the goal was reached (tysm☀️☀️☀️) but i have a new issue. so my landlord has our least set up so that the 2 months rent that we put up counts for the 1st month’s and the last month’s rent when both me n my roommate assumed it was going to be for the 1st and 2nd month like we had talked about so that’s why I’m a bit uhh stressed. If seeing donation posts annoy you or anything like that then that’s just gonna be it!! You can just unfollow if it bothers you that much but if you’re intrested in helping me then please reblog and/or donate!!
my rent is 800 total but i have a roommate so my portion is 400. i have the old donation for rge n house stuff (once again thanks!)
